What are the differences between happy people and unhappy people? This is a very straight forward answer right? Happy people are always smiling and unhappy people are always finding faults with people, having a frown on their face happens almost every day.
Well that is correct but we want to know how exactly a happy person becoming happy does and how we should avoid getting into the state of unhappiness.
1. Love vs. Fear
Happy people are always having less fear and they love a lot more. They believe that by doing things fearlessly, they will not have any regrets.
They see each moment, each challenge as an opportunity to discover more about them; stepping up to another level of their comfort zone and that is when they start to aim for even more. . Things might not work as planned, however, they have gave it a shot.
2. Acceptance vs. Resistance
Happy people understand that some situations are not within their control and instead of trying to resist or salvage it; they will accept the situation and thinks that everything happens for a reason.
When unpleasant things happen to them, they don’t try to fight it because they know it is going to make them even more unpleasant. Instead, they will calm down and ask themselves, “What can I learn from it this and How do I make it better?” They always focus on the positive, rather than on the negative and they see life as a meaning journey to complete instead of just seeing it as just 365 days a year.
3. Forgiveness vs. Hatred
Happy people are aware that it is not healthy to hold on to anger. They choose to forgive and forget, understanding that every single humans being make mistakes and forgiveness is a gift they gave to themselves.
They know that it is not going to benefit them if they are always holding on to anger and their relationship between both parties might turn sour and it is not going to be worth it
[quote]Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. ~Buddha[/quote]
4. Trust vs. Doubt
They trust themselves and they trust people around them. Whether they are talking to anyone and I mean anyone, be it, the cleaner of the company, the boss etc, somehow they always made them feel that something is very special and unique about them.
Because of that, they learnt to treat everyone with love, pride, respect and make no distinctions between age, sex,position,race, or religion. “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”
5. Meaning vs. Ambition
They do the things they do that because it brings them meaning into their life. They see it as a vision and purpose to complete in life so they are always looking forward to help the world when they are awake. They understand that “Doing what you love is living in life of abundance” As long as you are doing that, wealth will naturally flow it.
They are more concerned about the values they share to other people rather than just making money out of that. They are not motivated by money and what they need is actually to make a difference to the world, doing what they love. “Do what you love and you do not have to work for life”
6. Praising vs. Criticizing
Happy people usually don’t criticize the absence of the behavior to reinforce because they know by doing so; it’s not going to do any good. Rather, they always don’t hesitate to praise the person and they will actually encourage the positive behavior, making them feel good about themselves.
Think about the times u are being criticized by people and do you like to hang out with them often? I doubt so because that will only make you feel inferior about yourself and you wouldn’t want that to happen. How about hanging out with people that are always praising you about the good things u did, you are feeling happy and you wouldn’t mind spending the whole day talking to them about your personal problems.
7. Challenges vs. Problems
Happy people see problems as challenges, as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things, understanding that the mistakes that they did will be a progression in their future.
8. Selflessness vs Selfishness
They do things not solely for themselves but putting other people’s interest as well. They make sure that they bring meaning, empowerment and values to other people and they share the best of themselves just to make people happy.
9. Abundance vs. Lack/ Poverty
They are always thinking about living in an abundance of life. Even though some of them might not achieve it but deep down in their mind, they have already achieved it and they are going to attract all the abundances into their life.
Apply Laws of Attractions – Think about what you really want, visualize the things that you are receiving it. Feel the joy of having the things you wanted in your hands right now and you will slowly attracting it. The universe is like your catalogue, granting whatever you wish for, it’s even better than a genie’s bottle because it has only three wishes.
Take for example, you are thirsty and you wanted a cup of drink. You wanted it so badly that your mind started to appear images of that drink. Our brains are actually made up with lots of images, jumping from one image to another image. After that, you will realize that the universe actually granted you that cup of water. Use that to attract things that you really wanted and prepare to receive it.
10. Dreaming Big vs. Being Realistic
Happy people don’t really mind about how people view them as long as they are not causing bad to people. They dare and love to dream big, always listening to their intuition and heart. They strongly believe that even they do not manage to get the moon; they will still get the stars.
They have strong beliefs of themselves and are always looking forward to improve themselves every single day.
11. Kindness vs. Cruelty
They are kind to themselves and other people because it made them feel positive about life and they understand the power of self-love, self-acceptance and self-forgiveness.
12. Gratitude vs. Ingratitude
No matter where they are, they are always feeling grateful about life and showing gratitude to people who have did something for them. It doesn’t matter how simple or how tough the kindness act is but they have a strong level of gratitude of people. They will be giving thanks to people every time and by showing gratitude, there is a strong energy surrounding you, making you to feel happy.
13. Presence/ Engagement vs. Disengagement
They know how to live in the present and dreaming of what their future will be. They are willing to do whatever it takes to have progression on them.
14. Positive vs. Negativity
No matter what happens to them, they still remained positive and believe that they will be someone who is less fortunate than them since they do not have any limitations about themselves. They are always grateful that they have the chance to stay alive, pursuing what they want in life.
15. Taking Responsibility vs. Blaming
They take full responsibility about themselves and they don’t see the need of blaming other people because it is not going to solve anything. It will only make them feel that they are not in the wrong but still, the problem is there. By pushing the blame to other people, you are in fact giving away all your power. They choose to keep their power, taking full responsibility for everything that happens.
16. Complaining vs Finding Solutions
Most people are always complaining about everything and they are not always happy about people, their bosses or anyone that annoys them. By complaining, you are actually attracting more negative emotions into yourself and you are not going to feel good about it.
Happy people tend to spend the time on solving the problems instead of complaining.
17. Failure vs Success
You have been taught in school that failing is a very bad thing and it only determines that you are a failure. That concept does not apply to the real world; in fact, it is going to benefit you in the long run. Failing is a learning process and you will only learn when you fail.
[quote]If you win, you will be happy. If you lose, you will be wise.[/quote]
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