How to Deal with Negative People

Posted by | October 8, 2013 | Happiness, Motivation | 7 Comments

In this lifetime, you will meet different kinds of people, and not all of them will bring positive vibes to your life. This is why it is important to know how to deal with negative people because sooner or later, you will meet one of them. You do not want your life to be affected by all the negativity that these kinds of people bring so it is important to know how to interact with them properly.

Negative people can come in many forms. There are those who always try to discourage you in everything you want to do in your life. There are also those people who always complain about every little thing. Others do not have any positive things to say about other people. You should steer clear of these kinds of people because they will only bring negativity to your life.

The paragraphs below will give you some tips and ideas on how to deal with negative people in your life.

Mix with the right kind of people

In the first place, you should avoid negative people as much as possible. You need to mix with the right kind of people who share the same values and beliefs. Otherwise, you will be influenced by their negativity which can badly affect your own views and actions in life.

If you have a coworker who is always complaining about how difficult his job is every single day, you should avoid this coworker without being too obvious or you will end up hurting his feelings. When he asks you to join him for lunch, you should politely decline and he will stop asking you again in the future once he realizes that you do not want to be in his company. However, you should do this in such a way that will not create any tension in the workplace.

If you have a family member who lives in the same house and always has bad things to say about you, like your difficult grandfather or your judgmental sister, you should try to avoid them as much as possible. You can also discuss with them your feelings about their attitude. If that does not work, you should just try to avoid them.

Choose quality over quantity when it comes to having friends

Some people think that they are very lucky because they have hundreds of friends. This may be true when you want to ask someone to party with you, but when it comes to dealing with real problems, you only rely on a few chosen friends. It has been said over and over that having a few good friends is much better than having lots of friends who do not know you deeply.

Moreover, having too many friends can sometimes create conflict and misunderstandings. This is because you are dealing with more people who have different personalities. Some of them may bring positive things in your life while others may not. You should let go of those people who do not share the same values in life. Otherwise, you will just feel out of place or different when you are with them.

Nurture your friendship with those people who are always there for you not just in good times but more so in bad times. You will find out who these people are when you are in trouble. They will be the ones who will help you in those times when you need friends the most.

Hang out with people who help you improve yourself

People who contribute to your success in life are the ones whose friendship you should value. You need to be with those people who will let you soar like an eagle. These are the people who are supportive enough to help you achieve your dreams in life. Negative people will only try to bring you down, telling you that your dreams are impossible to achieve. They may say this because they are just being their usually negative selves or they may say this out of envy. Either way, you should avoid these people and instead try to be with positive people who help you improve yourself and achieve your dreams.

Be nice even to negative people

It is always important to be nice to those people who always say negative things. If you are nice to them, they will most likely stop being negative about you and your endeavors and will just let you do the things that you want to do. They will feel discouraged after failed attempts at brining you down. When they realize that you are not a weakling who easily gives up, they will focus their negativity on other things.

You should also be nice to them because that is the right thing to do. If you show them negativity, then you are no different from them. You need to show them that despite their negativity, you still make sure that you maintain your values and principles by being nice to them. And who knows, maybe they will be influenced by your positive attitude and will consider changing their negative ways.

Understand the cause of their negativity

More often than not, people have underlying reasons why they think and behave negatively. Some people may feel envious about your ambitions and achievements in life that they say negative things about you or try to discourage you from reaching your goals. A coworker may be complaining a lot at work because he is also having a difficult time at home. There are also those people who feel negative about life because they have experienced so many failures and heartaches that they become scared of feeling positive and hopeful about things. Whatever their reason is, understanding the root cause of their negative behavior will at least make it easier for you to find ways on how to deal with them.

Final note

When you cannot help but to be with negative people, it is important to just ignore them and do not let them influence your views and ambitions in life. Instead, you should try to influence them with your positive energy that can change their behavior and the way they see things and life in general.


  • Ellen says:

    I am experiencing extreme negativity living with my 15 year old daughter. I have never seen such a negative person and she affects our entire household including her two siblings. I understand that you say “avoid’ these people, but what about when it is you OWN child? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

    • wilsonljx says:

      Hi Ellen,

      I believe the reason of why people are negative is because they felt inferior of themselves and one of a way to curb the negative is to always sing praises of them, encourage them when they do something right. May I know how many times have you always encourage or praise them? In my opinion, appreciating the kids effort is one of the way to make them feel better about themselves and they will slowly gain back their confidence as time goes. To conclude, always praise them or encourage when they tried to do something because it really means alot to the child. All the best to u and I hope you are able to overcome this obstacle!

    • Emile says:

      hello ellen
      first remember ur daughter when she was a child how cute she was and think positively about her, and tell her how beautiful and cute she was
      Second the most important thing don’t blame her and don’t blame urself, both of u are great
      u are her mom and u really affect her, like attract like remember
      if u really want her to be positive treat her positively
      there is a lot to say hope these little answers could help u
      Thank u

  • Mar Lan says:

    Finally I was able to distance myself from a couple of extremely negative people.One of them became negative like her mother more so after she passed away taking on her persona.I couldn't deal with it anymore and was fortunate enough the way things worked out and we no longer see each other and my life is so much better without all the unnecessary drama.

  • Floy says:

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    Can I get your affiliate link to your host? I wish my website loaded
    up as quickly as yours lol

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