I honestly believe that a person can never be totally independent unless he lives his life according to his own rules. We are all rational human beings who have the ability to combine intelligence, intuition and emotions when making life-changing decisions. Remember that no one else is held accountable for our own happiness or misery but ourselves, therefore, the only opinions that should guide us through our existence are our own.
When we were kids, our parents’ opinions were what molded our values and principles. As we grew older, friends and acquaintances have further influenced our views and attitudes. These were times when we did not have full control over our lives. Now that we are older, it is a huge challenge to make smart choices by following our own instinct and common sense.
Have you ever received strong opinions that made you cringe or feel insecure of your own views? Opinions such as “you should have studied to become a neurosurgeon instead of dabbling on creative writing,” or “I think you would have had a better life if you married Bob instead of Lee” seem aggravating at first, but taking it in stride and sticking to your principles is the most effective way of handling opinionated people. Always keep in mind that other people’s views are based on their own beliefs. Therefore, you should not let their opinions affect you.
Do not feel anxious or disheartened when people offer unsolicited advice on how they think you should live your life. Here are several reasons you should not be bothered about other people’s opinions:
You know what’s best for you.
No one else is a better judge of your character but your own self. Therefore, you know what makes you genuinely happy and what motivates you. If you think that being single and childless will be very convenient for your lifestyle, then go for it. Some may express their opinions about the joys of being married and having kids but these are their views, not yours. Always look into yourself and stay true to your principles.
Not all opinionated people have your best interest at heart.
Let’s face it: some people are out there to crush your spirit and make you feel less worthy than you really are. These are the people who keep on giving opinions that put you down, such as “I think you need to lose a lot of weight” or “it seems like you have not looked at a mirror in ages.” Do not allow these people to drain the energy out of you nor should you allow them to change the way you see yourself. Instead, gravitate towards positive people who appreciate you for who you are.
Do not be afraid to make mistakes.
Have you ever hesitated to stick to your beliefs and decided to follow another person’s opinion instead, only to have things turn out for the worst? On the other hand, has someone given you his opinion for the sake of protecting you? Though it is instinctive for people to prevent mistakes from occurring, do not be afraid to experience slip-ups along the way. Life’s little mistakes help us develop into smarter people. Listen to your own intuition when making decisions and take the plunge. If other people offer you contradicting opinions, be strong enough to stick to your principles whatever the consequences may be.
You are allowed to have your own life experiences.
I’ve spoken to people who always give opinions based on personal experiences. These are the ones who discourage you from trying out new things and make you think otherwise about going to a new place or trying a new sport just because they have had unpleasant experiences attached to it. Allow yourself to enjoy life and follow your desires. Remember that our existence is too short to set limitations. Not all life experiences are the same, so do not let opinions stop you from living the life that you deserve.
We are all given one life, so live it to your heart’s content.
We only have one life to live, so make it worthwhile by investing on experiences that will make your body, mind and soul whole. Some may express opinions that disapprove your choices, but whoever said that you needed someone else’s approval to be happy? Never allow other people to put out your inner fire by absorbing their negative judgment, rather, show them how happy you are by setting your own rules and pursuing your dreams.
We all deserve to exist in this world according to our own principles and standards. Letting other people’s opinions affect and change you only means that you are allowing them to control your life. Forget what others are saying and believe in the positive things that you know about yourself. This is the key in creating a happy and free existence.